Love...





Isn't always perfect





For couples so eager to call it quits after the infatuation wears off... to throw in the towel on their relationship because everything isn't ‘perfect'... here is some food for thought:


Lifelong commitment is not what most people dream it to be.


It's not waking up every morning to make breakfast and eat together. It's not cuddling in bed until both of you fall asleep. It's not a sparkling clean home, filled with laughter and love-making every day.


More often than not, it's living with someone who steals all the covers, and snores. It's slammed doors and a few harsh words at times. It's stubbornly disagreeing and giving each other the silent treatment until your hearts heal, and then offering forgiveness. It's coming home to the same person every day that you know loves and cares about you in spite of - and because of - who you are. It's laughing about the one time you accidentally did something stupid. It's about dirty laundry and unmade beds. It's about helping each other with the hard work of life. It's about swallowing the nagging words instead of saying them out loud. It's about eating the easiest meal you can make and sitting down together at a late hour because you both had a crazy day. It's when you have an emotional breakdown and your love lays down with you and holds you, and tells you everything is going to be okay. And you believe them. It's about still loving someone even though sometimes they make you go absolutely insane.


Loving someone isn't always easy. Sometimes it's quite hard. However, it is amazing and comforting.


So, be realistic and manage your expectations. If you have come across the perfect partner, congratulations. If you haven't yet, then remember that time passes by and if you keep on searching for "the one", you may end up (at a later stage of your life) wondering where all the time has gone and why you're still alone.


Being in a loving relationship (even if not everything is "rosy"), can be one of the best things you will ever experience.


A word of advice: only go to sleep after having talked through any disagreement and made peace with each other. Not doing so can, in fact, be like a slow burning fire which spreads silently through the wooden pillars on which your relationship stands. Put out the fire before it is too late... and... be happy! :-)